Relationships & Sexual Health

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Relationships and sex can be the source of both comfort and anxiety in our lives. Finding out as much as you can about these two topics can help you to feel more in control, and can also help with the decisions you may be faced with.

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Sex and Sexual Health

Having sex isn't just about your body. Sex can also affect you emotionally. 

Sex can also bring up lots of questions about stuff like what feels good and what's safe. Being sexually active also exposes you to real risks like pregnancy or Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) like herpes, Chlamydia and HIV.

If you're thinking about becoming sexually active, or even if you already are, you can get more information about having sex (and how to have it safely) from these places:

Sexual Assault and Abuse

Sexual assault or abuse can affect people - guys and girls - in lots of ways. If you or someone you know needs help or someone to talk to, you can phone Lifeline on 131 114 or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 to find out what you can do.

For more information about where you can get help, check out our Sexual Assault page.

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Sexuality

Some people are strongly aware of and confident about their feelings and attractions towards other people. Other people are not so sure how they feel.

Many people identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. People in these circumstances may experience problems such as being rejected by peers or friends, or not having their orientation accepted by parents. They may feel isolated or depressed.

If you're in this situation, it's important to understand your rights so you can find more information, support and ways to meet others who feel like you. You'll find starting points at Reach Out!'s pages on sexuality (new window) and coming out (new window).

For more about same-sex attraction, including links to support organisations for young people, check out our Same-Sex Attraction page.

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Relationships

Relationships are an important part of who we are and how we think about ourselves, whether you're talking about friendships or romantic relationships.

Sometimes our relationships change because of decisions we make. Sometimes they change because of things outside our control. Some changes keep a relationship interesting and fun, but other changes can bring stress or conflict.

Our relationships can be a source of happiness, but they can also cause anxiety and stress. Some relationships can even become unsafe.

There are heaps of resources out there to help you deal with problems or issues in your own relationships. They can even put you in touch with people you can talk to - people your own age, or professional support workers - about your concerns.

  • Reach Out's Sex and Relationships pages (new window) let young people tell their own stories. They also have downloadable fact sheets that break things down and offer good advice.
  • Headspace's Real Stories (new window) also present stories told by young people about their relationships with their friends, boyfriends and girlfriends.
  • Love: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly (new window) is a great, detailed guide to dating and relationships for young women.
  • The Lookout (new window) has information about domestic and family violence support available across Victoria.
  • iMatter (new window) is an app designed to help identify the warning signs of an abusive relationship, and provide support for people experiencing abusive relationships - it's available from the iTunes store (new window) and Google Play (new window) 
  • mindhealthconnect's domestic violence page (new window) has some information on family and relationship violence, and links to organisations you can turn to for help.

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Puberty

Puberty can feel like an alarm clock going off in your body, switching on your sexuality and a heap of physical, mental and emotional changes that often cause confusion and even anxiety. The important thing to remember is that everyone goes through pretty much the same thing sooner or later.

It's good to try to understand puberty and the changes going on in your body.

  • The Better Health Channel's page on puberty (new window) has a list of facts and resources.
  • Somazone (new window) has a great Q&A section where you can get your questions answered by experts, and read the answers to other people's questions about sex and their bodies.

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Pregnancy and Parenthood

An unplanned pregnancy can be a shock or a surprise. Only you can figure out if you're ready to be a parent, but there's lots of information out there to help you make your decision.

Becoming a parent is a massive life change, especially if you're young, but there is support and advice out there.

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Links

Reach Out!
Up-front articles on relationships, including personal stories and fact sheets about sex, coming out, managing relationships and more.

Headspace - Real Stories
Young people tell their own stories about sex and relationships.

Love: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly
Advice and stories about dating, sex, relationships and what to do if things get ugly.

Better Health Channel - Sexual Health
Information about a broad range of sex, sexuality and sexual health topics.

The Lookout
Information about domestic and family violence support available across Victoria.

Family Planning Victoria
Straightforward information about issues such as choosing a doctor, relationships, sex and laws about pregnancy.

Pregnancy Counselling Australia
Information and advice about pregnancy - call the 24-hour helpline on 1300 RESPECT.

Victorian Centres Against Sexual Assault
Providing services to people who have experienced sexual assault, as well as their families, partners and friends.

 

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